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Originally Posted by AFireInside
Why would that indicate that he has any commitment issues. That's completely ridiculous...
I've been with my gf for 7 years. We aren't getting married and we are both fine with that. Marriage means absolutely nothing to me, and I don't come from a family with divorced parents, they've been together for well over 30 years (hah I don't even know the exact number, but I'm 28 and they were married well before me).
Why can't I just be with my gf for 30 years and not get married? It's a silly piece of paper. If she really really really wanted to get married, I guess I would, luckily she doesn't care about getting married. Woo.
We aren't having kids either. Has nothing to do with commitment, but more to do with the fact I DON'T WANT TO HAVE ANY, and neither does she. *GASP* we still don't have a joint account either...
We manage just fine, although once we buy a house the joint account concept might change.
Now on to the actual issue. I've been in this situation before, not too often though. I say just let it go, although I don't see it being a big deal choosing to stay in a hotel either. As far as trying to please the family by going for dinner etc. I'd say a compromise is in order. I would go once in awhile, just not every Sunday.
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Well, here's my mentality if I were the gf's dad. You say marriage is just a piece of paper, it doesn't mean squat to you both. It's the bond that you both share that defines the relationship. Ok, I'll accept that. So that means signing that piece of paper should mean nothing to you either way. Why don't you make me, the reglious, conservative dad, and my family happy by signing it then and making it official? Afterall, like you said, it's not going to change anything. All it will change is make both sides happy; the dad seeing his daughter officially married, and you, now that the father in law won't be on your back about it. Win win both ways.
Any other excuse to not get married tells me, the dad, that you aren't as fully committed as you think you are.