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Originally Posted by The Yen Man
I don't know if it's really a religious thing. I'm not regligious, but if your gf is my daughter, I'd honestly have doubts about your relationship too. Please don't take any offense to what I'm saying, but in reading all your responses, I would have some serious doubts as to how committed you really were to my daughter.
As a father, I think it's quite understandable to make sure a daughter is well taken care of. I'm not saying you have to take care of her financially or anything, but the fact that you say you don't want marriage and kids ever, and that you would never share joint bank accounts later on in life, tells me you have some committment issues.
It's a nice gesture that you come over for dinner (on your non football days lol), come to family functions and stuff like that. But that stuff is the bare minimum of what you should already be doing if you were serious about the relationship. It's what you can show me above those things which tells me whether you'd be good for my daughter or not. And frankly, I don't see anything that does.
So I guess honestly, I totally see where your gf's dad is coming from.
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Why would that indicate that he has any commitment issues. That's completely ridiculous...
I've been with my gf for 7 years. We aren't getting married and we are both fine with that. Marriage means absolutely nothing to me, and I don't come from a family with divorced parents, they've been together for well over 30 years (hah I don't even know the exact number, but I'm 28 and they were married well before me).
Why can't I just be with my gf for 30 years and not get married? It's a silly piece of paper. If she really really really wanted to get married, I guess I would, luckily she doesn't care about getting married. Woo.
We aren't having kids either. Has nothing to do with commitment, but more to do with the fact I DON'T WANT TO HAVE ANY, and neither does she. *GASP* we still don't have a joint account either...
We manage just fine, although once we buy a house the joint account concept might change.
Now on to the actual issue. I've been in this situation before, not too often though. I say just let it go, although I don't see it being a big deal choosing to stay in a hotel either. As far as trying to please the family by going for dinner etc. I'd say a compromise is in order. I would go once in awhile, just not every Sunday.