[SeeGeeWhy]

I haven't read everything in this thread, so I apologize if I repeat anything.

I believe that this response from her father is more of a reflection of the relationship between you and him, not you and his daughter.

You mentioned something about him not having the stones to approach you about it, but he might not even see this as an "issue". You, on the other hand, definitely do... so do YOU have the stones to approach him to work it out man to man? Getting pissed off and avoiding the issue is generally not a good or "manly" way to do things in my experience. It takes a man to face his problems and make peace rather than take a "do things my way or the highway" - just my opinion.

Like marriage or not, it sounds like you're intent on having a monogomous, long term relationship with this woman. You're common law at this point, so unless you're very specific with how you treat your assets there isn't much legally different between what you're doing and being married. Second, unless you're not fully invested emotionally in the relationship, leaving her would be just as hard as if you were married. Do you want to have children? Dude... for all intents and purposes, you are married. Just because you don't "have the papers" doesn't mean it will be easy to walk away for you at this point.

So, you want to have a good life with her and her family, or do you want to get pissy everytime her dad does something you don't like and never deal with it? If you sit down and have a chat, you still might not see eye to eye but I am pretty sure there will be more respect between the two of you. To me, having the conversation is the better way to nip this in the bud, as opposed to avoiding the conflict and making yourself more angry in the process.

You don't want to have a bad relationship with her parents going forward. Cutting a daughter off from her family is a BAD idea, and will definitely put more stress on your relationship with her than you want to have.