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Originally Posted by zuluking
Firstly, I wasn't inferring they were bad parents. They may provide more latitude due to their inability to provide a secure environment for you during childhood. Yes, a wild assumption. Regardless, that is there approach which is agreeable to you personally so you're supportive of it. Dad's approach is less agreeable to you personally so you rail against it (as does your girlfriend.) But whether you agree or not, doesn't make it right or wrong either or any less worthy of respect being his turf and all.
Secondly, the misconception of failed marriages is that people, priorities and feelings change. Well, here's the surprise: in successful marriages, people, priorities and feelings change, too. The difference is in the MUTUAL effort involved. Some days it feels like frickin' work and other days as easy as breathing. It's the days where it feels like work when people decide to stop trying and blame "feelings." "I simply fell out of love" is a BS line. You CHOOSE to stop loving someone. A successful marriage is built out of " I CHOOSE to love my spouse when they're at their worst; when it's the hardest; and when I least feel like it." Like it or not, marriage requires work and effort...period. Anyone that claims otherwise will likely become part of the 40% statistic.
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Thanks just isn't enough for this section. My thoughts are exactly the same, I just wish my ex-wife would have come to realize this before coming to the conclusion that she "fell out of love" with me.
With Regards to the OP, It's understandable that it makes no sense why sleeping together in one place (at home) is no different then sleeping together in another (her parents place) but it is her parents place and if you are seriously committed to the relationship then 3 days on the couch is a small price to pay for a life time without greif. Swallow your pride for those days and move on.