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Originally Posted by rubecube
If I had the money I would. I'm currently not in a financial state to afford that kind of luxury. What do you want to bet his view would be on her supporting me going to school?
Or, you know, people changing and not having the same priorities or feelings towards each other down the line.
[/quot]Are "my parents" the same ones that put you through the horrors of a failed marriage?
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Yep. Their relationship with each other doesn't mean they were bad parents to me and my sister.[/quote]
Firstly, I wasn't inferring they were bad parents. They may provide more latitude due to their inability to provide a secure environment for you during childhood. Yes, a wild assumption. Regardless, that is there approach which is agreeable to you personally so you're supportive of it. Dad's approach is less agreeable to you personally so you rail against it (as does your girlfriend.) But whether you agree or not, doesn't make it right or wrong either or any less worthy of respect being his turf and all.
Secondly, the misconception of failed marriages is that people, priorities and feelings change. Well, here's the surprise: in successful marriages, people, priorities and feelings change, too. The difference is in the MUTUAL effort involved. Some days it feels like frickin' work and other days as easy as breathing. It's the days where it feels like work when people decide to stop trying and blame "feelings." "I simply fell out of love" is a BS line. You CHOOSE to stop loving someone. A successful marriage is built out of " I CHOOSE to love my spouse when they're at their worst; when it's the hardest; and when I least feel like it." Like it or not, marriage requires work and effort...period. Anyone that claims otherwise will likely become part of the 40% statistic.