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Originally Posted by rubecube
I think that's where him and I are at odds on the philosophy of marriage. I don't see being married as a deterrent to splitting up. Like I said, people don't get married with the idea that they'll get divorced, yet it happens 40% of the time. I just don't see marriage as any more of a commitment than what we already have, yet it's twice as complicated and more expensive.
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Fair enough, but your last statement is a little telling, I think.
You say you don't see marriage as more of a commitment, yet you say it's twice as complicated, why is that?
I'd say becasue you've made a formal commitment, and are now obligated to make sure that think or thin, the other person will be supported and taken care of, financially, and in any other number of ways, and it goes both ways. That's what makes a real commitment, being willing to take on an obligation. As it stand right now, despite how much you love her, and how much you've given up to be with her, your only obligation is to pay half the rent.
It may not even be the marriage/piece of paper that her dad is upset about, it may be your attitude about keeping your lives seperate. Common law, or full on marriage, I'd be willing to bet her dad doesn't warm up untill you've made some sort of gesture to say you're willing to take on the obligation of supporting his daughter, financially or otherwise.