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Originally Posted by zuluking
No offence, dude. But it's the people in the relationship (any relationship) that make it or break it. Your issues aren't with marriage; they're with your parents. The symbol of unity represented by marriage is supposed to galvanize the intention of each individual to approach life as a unit. It is successful only based on that commitment, not voodoo magic. People aren't "meant" to be together - they choose to be together and then work at it. Common-law functions the same with only with less intention involved, likely resulting in less success (how many people do you know celebrate their 20th, 30th, 40th anniversary of common-law? although i'm not saying it can't be done!)
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Yes and there's a 40% statistical chance that it ends poorly. I know several people who celebrate common-law anniversaries - and many people here know my stance on anniversaries.
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As per Dad, he lends more credence in the symbolism of marriage and what it represents. He wants the best for his daughter long-term and you obviously haven't convinced him that you do as well. And why? Well, it's obvious - he's a insane control freak, duh! Or perhaps he loves his daughter more than anything in the world but, like most crusty old fathers, professes it in prickly, over-protective ways. Try respecting him for that instead of whining about your own hurt feelings.
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Except what he thinks is best for his daughter isn't just because he says or thinks so. This is where he gets into trouble with both me and her. Where my parents say 'Here's some advice, now the choice is yours,' her dad says 'Here's my advice, and you're a bad person and a failure if you don't take it.' And then he proceeds to ram his advice/beliefs down your throat until you agree with him (this usually ends up in yelling match between him and my girlfriend).