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Originally Posted by rubecube
Again, I come from a home where marriage has had pretty negative effect on several lives. My issues with marriage have very little to do with the insignificance of it, and more to do with the horrors surrounding failed marriages.
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No offence, dude. But it's the people in the relationship (any relationship) that make it or break it. Your issues aren't with marriage; they're with your parents. The symbol of unity represented by marriage is supposed to galvanize the intention of each individual to approach life as a unit. It is successful only based on that commitment, not voodoo magic. People aren't "meant" to be together - they choose to be together and then work at it. Common-law functions the same with only with less intention involved, likely resulting in less success (how many people do you know celebrate their 20th, 30th, 40th anniversary of common-law? although i'm not saying it can't be done!)
As per Dad, he lends more credence in the symbolism of marriage and what it represents. He wants the best for his daughter long-term and you obviously haven't convinced him that you do as well. And why? Well, it's obvious - he's a insane control freak, duh! Or perhaps he loves his daughter more than anything in the world but, like most crusty old fathers, professes it in prickly, over-protective ways. Try respecting him for that instead of whining about your own hurt feelings.