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Originally Posted by rubecube
So you're saying marriage is the same thing, just add in a joint bank account and a name change?
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Not at all.
You're against marriage because of the mess it causes when you break up correct? Well that to me, based on what you've said above shows me that you're not anti marriage, you're anti commitment.
Think of these three situations.
I've got a room mate named Jim.
We have seperate bank accounts.
We never want to have children together.
We don't wan't to buy a house together.
If I don't want to live with Jim anymore, it's a pretty easy split because there is no commitment.
I've got a wife.
We live together.
All of our financial matters are tied together, through joint bank accounts etc.
We don't want kids, and we like renting.
If I don't want to live with her anymore, we've got to get a divorce and work out what belongs to who, becasue we commited to supporting each other, through thick and thin. If we break up, it could get ugly.
I've got a common law wife.
We live together.
All of our financial matters are tied together, through joint bank accounts etc.
We don't want kids, and we like renting.
If I don't want to live with her anymore, we've got to get a divorce and work out what belongs to who, becasue we commited to supporting each other, through thick and thin. If we break up, it could get ugly.
Which of those sounds most like you and your girlfriend?
Now what if I was having sex with Jim? It'd pretty much be the same as your relationship with your girl (minus one vagina of course).
I can pretty much guarantee that's how her dad sees it.
Yes you make the effort to go to her family functions, but I'll bet all her boyfrieds have, and you've probably done the same for all your girlfriends.
That's not commitment.
Yes you moved with her to so she could be near family. That's a great gesture, but still not a solid commitment. You could still easily pack up, and move home just as easily as I could find a new roommate.
I'm not saying I think what you're doing is wrong. I'm just trying to help you see why her dad probably doesn't recognize any commitment, and in turn doesn't give you the respect you deserve.