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Old 10-28-2009, 12:23 PM   #20
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How much did you have to shell out to your wife's parents to marry her? Do you guys need to send money back to them?

I have a Chinese wife too so I know your pain.
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I haven't had to shell out anything to my wife's parents to marry her, though we do give her parents money every month for right now. Part of that is helping to pay a mortgage on an apartment they bought which is actually in my wife's name.

The communication issues and differences in relationship styles between cultures can cause major issues though. I often think we are coming at things from totally different worlds, and a lot of patience is absolutely necessary to maintain good family relations.

On the other hand, the Chinese family is one of the most wonderful things about the culture. Family is very close and is really the center of life. Lots of dinners together, feeling very close and always emphasis on family first. There is a closeness and warmth in Chinese family culture that feels very human.
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