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Originally Posted by Tyler
If someone wouldnt marry you because of religion, that's a HUGE red flag right there that the person is not well in the head to begin with
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I don't think that's necessarily the case.
It's less marrying/not marrying someone because of their religion, it's just simply a matter of compatibility.
If you're going to spend your life with someone you want to be pretty compatible, and working out major areas of contention are pretty important.
Even two people of the same religion might not be compatible.. if one believes in daily prayer and Bible reading and that the man is the spiritual leader of the home and "wives, submit to your husbands", while the other takes a more liberal laid back position that might be as much a problem as two people serious about different religions.
For some religion isn't just a system of beliefs and morals, it's foundational to the salvation of their soul.. if one (or both!) spouse is trying to convert the other constantly, that could eventually become a problem in the relationship.
So someone wanting not to marry someone from another religion in some cases is a good thing IMO, it means they're trying to find someone they are compatible with long term.
Plus throwing kids into the mix makes things even more complicated.
I know couples that were of different religion and got married and had no problems until the question of "what do we raise the kids as" came up!
It's just one of those things that should be talked about and considered before getting married.
The other person's family is another one that people sometimes don't consider when getting married. Sure you love her, but what if her family is a bunch of crazy racists and you're on the top of their list? It might seem romantic and bold to go ahead and get married, but you are denying your kids from having at least one set of grandparents, maybe exposing the kids to a lifetime of open hostility? No situation is ideal, and dealing with the less than ideal is life, but still all things should be at least considered.