[jayswin]

Originally Posted by bigbadboss101

Alright, I dated this woman for three months and late May we broke up. There were good times, but there were too many occasions where a good day turns into a bad one within a 30 seconds time span. Anyways she has a tendency of criticizing others. For example, she tells me I am controlling or critical. She also says this person gossips lots, this person has a temper issue, and this person doesn't think before he/she speaks etc. There are many other instances where she judges people.

Now looking back I see the things she criticize others of is exactly what she is!! Is there a medical term for that? I do care about her and I tried to help by a) pointing it out and b) saying I will work with her. She repetitively says 'it's none of your business' or 'it's in the past'. On many occasions I thought about ending the relationship but wanted to tough it out. When she mentioned to me that she thought we weren't meant to be together, it was a weight off my shoulders. I wanted it to work, but better to break up than to end up in a divorce down the road.

After we broke up we remained friends and I was very nice to her still. One day she asked if she can convince me to go for a walk and we did. Then we had dinner with a mutual friend. All is good right? Few days later she said we can't be friends. Now things are strange because we have lot of mutual friends and she is causing a bit of a division. She said she needs space and boundaries. Honestly I don't believe I should stop hanging with my friends just because she is also in presence. I have zero issue being friends but she does. I think it's her responsibility to create her own space because no one else has any issue that we are all together at one place.

So, I am looking for the term that describe the behavior explained above.

It's called being a woman.