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Old 06-19-2009, 09:59 PM   #248
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If you get better the more you do it, why do some couples who have been together for a long period of time say their sex life is stagnant?
If you can figure that out and a way to fix it, write a book and be a billionaire. Mostly it's a lack of variety - there's certainly plenty of arguments for monogamy, but biological imperatives encourage both men and women to stray and no amount of inventiveness with the same partner satisfies that urge.

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Again, I don't think it's about proving commitment, rather deepening the bond. Which CAN happen in a non-sexual way.
I don't see how not having sex and doing (whatever else you do) can create a deeper bond than having sex and doing (whatever else you do). I'm definitely not arguing that you can't improve a relationship without necessarily involving sex, but it's not an either/or proposition.

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I love playing devil's advocate. (Or in this case would I be playing the opposite role as it seems the devil's advocate would be for sex, no?)
Ah, but what if an angel is just the devil wearing white?

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I'm no Dr. Phil, but I doubt it's because they failed to practice long periods of abstinence.
Yah, 'cause if you were Dr. Phil, you'd feed 'em some bafflegab about how whatever they mutually agree to must be right for them. But then, if mutual agreement was a guarantee you're doing the right thing, no one would ever get divorced.
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