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Originally Posted by Phanuthier
I had a great few dates with her, but I'm wondering that myself.
Then again, it almost sounds like a mirror image of myself. Or at least the part I'm trying to get away from.
The thing that attracts me to this girl, though, is she is almost exactly like me. Career driven to the same extent, involved to the same extent (she was a part of a lot of groups at Stanford, I was a part of a lot of groups at UofA), everywhere she goes she wants to do outdoors stuff, she has interest in investing and finance (see: MBAs) especially entrepreneurship and entrepreneurship has been somewhat of a holy grail for me, and she even plays soccer! I know for me, the no 1 thing I know I'm looking for is someone to go out and have a fancy dinner in San Fran or New York or Paris, but someone to go climb El Capitant or someone who will get me off my ass and say "c'mon, lets go and I"m dragging you with me whether you like it or not" to go base jumping or something I normally wouldn't do. I can sort of see it in this girl, I just hope I don't get a call to help move furniture.
(sorry to hijack the thread, again)
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I have read material that says if both people in a relationship are the same, they quickly tire of eachother and become bored. They become co-dependant and there is no challenge or mystery to their persona after some time.
It was saying that the
best relationships are the ones with polar oppisites, where both parties bring in different personal attributes, thus keeping the relationship fresh and exciting over the
long term.
For example the wild man who marries the tame woman, or if one partner is left-brained and the other is a right-brained thinker.
I think many relationships fail because the two people lose their identity a bit and become the same as the other.
So I wonder what it is;
Is it that people with commonalities make for successful relationships?
Or do opposites truly attract?