Nice guys being used is a result of guys that think being nice to them will eventually get the girl to like them.
It also has to do with the immature idea that you date people that you get a "spark" with. The spark is just an abstract lie that's been draped over ladies eyes...a lie they themselves do not understand.
The spark is just cover for the biggest piece of bull that people have been regurgitating about relationships over the years; the idea that you need to find someone based on a list of attributes/charactaristics that you are looking for in someone else.
That's complete crap...it's so short sighted to think that a static list is sufficient to determine what you're looking for in a person. If you're going to make a list, make a list of what you absolutely can't take. Tastes will change all the time, but determining what you can't take is different...that's like establishing where you stand morally/ethically. You should strive to figure out what you can't take...and then go from there.
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