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Old 05-03-2009, 01:56 PM   #30
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Most people who say suicide is an act of cowardace/selfishness have no concept at all of the mental state of such a person. It isn't something most people can understand unless they have stood at the abyss themselves.

Making music evidently was your friend's escape from his problems. Thing is, no matter how you try to escape them, those demons are always a step behind, and slowly, but surely, they overwhelm you. You could have made all the time for him in the world and spent hours of every day working on music, but inevitably, his demons would have eaten the joy of that away too.

A suicidal person lives in an irrational world, and the guilt we feel is the impossibility of understanding it rationally. There was nothing you could do to save him - that has to happen from within. It won't be easy to do, but instead of feeling guilty at your friend's death, feel happy that you were able to bring him some joy in a life that he otherwise found unbearable.
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