It's about 3 1/2 years ago now that I discovered my wife's best friend lifeless at the end of a rope. We both knew she had been having problems (she was bi-polar and on the absolute wrong meds on top of it all) as she had stayed with us for the last week of her life while work was done on her house. She made a solemn promise to my wife that she would do nothing drastic while things were worked out medically with my wifes help. Obviously she couldn't fulfill her end of the bargain.
Im still angry with her for that part of things as the whole guilt thing was taken on by my wife as it being her fault for any number of reasons. To top it off the womans family also looked our way to lay the blame as if we had any real say in what occurred. It was a very dark time.
But, with the benefit of hindsight both I and my wife realize that there was nothing at all we could of done different to prevent what happened. It was very pre-meditated as in her kitchen we discovered cheques written to pay all outstanding bills, letters written to all those close to her incuding my wife and her immediate family, her dogs had been put into a kennel and she had stopped in to visit them that day, etc etc. She was determined....and there was nothing anyone could of done or said to stop it.
My advice is very much like Cow's. Mourn the loss of a close friend, remeber the good stuff and then move on with your life. Otherwise he makes an even bigger impact by allowing you and possibly others to not live life to the fullest...something i doubt he even would of wanted.
Sorry for your loss, but as the old cliche states, life must go on.
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