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fatso · 03-21-2009, 08:00 AM

I'm not sure it's a gender or feminism issue. I mean, what do gay people do? Seems to me to be a common sense and decency issue.

If you're the person who asked and set-up the event for the date, you should probably offer to pay. Seems only fair since the other person is presumably there because of your request.

If it's an expensive outing if one party offers to pay, the other party should at least offer to go dutch. If it's a cheap thing like a coffee or a beer, both parties should probably offer to cover it (at least to be polite).

If it's someone you've liked for a long time or you had a great time, you probably want to put your best foot forward. Even if they asked you out, you might want to offer to pick up the tab as a sign that you enjoyed your time together.

I'm reluctant to give a rule, but if I had to... I'd say first date payor should be the one who asked and organized the date.

03-21-2009, 08:00 AM	#12
fatso First Line Centre Join Date: Feb 2008 Exp:	I'm not sure it's a gender or feminism issue. I mean, what do gay people do? Seems to me to be a common sense and decency issue. If you're the person who asked and set-up the event for the date, you should probably offer to pay. Seems only fair since the other person is presumably there because of your request. If it's an expensive outing if one party offers to pay, the other party should at least offer to go dutch. If it's a cheap thing like a coffee or a beer, both parties should probably offer to cover it (at least to be polite). If it's someone you've liked for a long time or you had a great time, you probably want to put your best foot forward. Even if they asked you out, you might want to offer to pick up the tab as a sign that you enjoyed your time together. I'm reluctant to give a rule, but if I had to... I'd say first date payor should be the one who asked and organized the date. __________________ The great CP is in dire need of prunes! "That's because the productive part of society is adverse to giving up all their wealth so you libs can conduct your social experiments. Experience tells us your a bunch of snake oil salesman...Sucks to be you." ~Calgaryborn 12/06/09 keeping it really stupid!