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Originally Posted by PYroMaNiaC
To me, the whole situation actually computes to her spending every waking minute with child. She does running around, laundry, dishes, cleans toilets, entertains the little one, makes meals for you, shows concern for how your day went, makes sure your lunch is made for the next day, tries to work up the energy for sex, and still get 8 hours of sleep. She loves being a mom and a wife, but the 2 hours every night that you put in parenting, (while she does chores that can't be multi-tasked) is peanuts to the energy she puts out. And then you have the balls to ask for 2 evenings a week off? When does she get time off? (this starting to sound familiar, yet?)
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Where does it say any of this in Stang's original post? You are ASSUMING all of this, there is jack all to indicate it from what he wrote. Where does this stuff happen, the 1950's?
My parents are in their 60s and my dad did his share and more around the house, your assumption that a guy naturally lets the woman do most of the work while he sits around is rather out of date and more than a little sexist.
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Originally Posted by PYroMaNiaC
The reason you're not ever getting married is because you're thinking only of yourself. That'll never fly in a marriage as there are two people involved in one of these.
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And who exactly is his wife thinking of when she insists he gives up his hobby for what seem to be petty and selfish reasons? Why is it ok for her to be selfish and not him?
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Originally Posted by PYroMaNiaC
If she spends all her time trying to make his life comfortable with meals, cleanliness, offspring, sex, and he spends all his time sleeping, eating, sex and jamming, who is not the equal partner? Him, because she's trying, in her own inexperienced way, to ask for some of his attention?
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Again with the assumptions - reread what you say here. He is "sleeping, eating, sex, and jamming" and she's "trying to make his life comfortable" - where did you get this from? Projection of your own situation?
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Originally Posted by PYroMaNiaC
What she wants is to feel equally important as jammin'. That means 6-8 hours of his time dedicated to her. For her. She wants to know that she's special, loved, and beautiful. That he understands her, gets what she does in a day, appreciates all that she brings to his life.
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Maybe she does and maybe she doesn't. It's plausible, but what's equally plausible is that he already does let her know she's special but it isn't enough, she doesn't want to be the special thing, she wants to be the ONLY thing.