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Originally Posted by stang
FTR I work shift work (7 on 7 off 12 hours days 6-6)
So I make decent coin, and I am home more then half the year. I stay at home with our 2 year old on my days off, and she has a mon-friday job that she loves.
I pull my share of the housework (laundry, cooking, cleaning) as I am home more during the day. She does her share too, because when I am on shift she does the cooking as she gets home first.
I bathe, and put our daughter to sleep when I am home too. I always put my family first, and give up lots of stuff (I feel anyways) for them and I dont mind at all. (as I am sure she does to)
And to whoever said I am out in a bar drinking. NOT true. I am in a Garage with 2 other guys just playing instruments. I live out of town (about 10 minutes) so I always drive, so I never have more then 2 beers. (and usually only one)
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My husband also works shifts while I also hold down a Mon. - Fri. job. That changes nothing. I think that what has gotten lost in my long and wordy posts is this:
Your wife is tired. You may be waking her up with your comings and goings. She works a lot - around the house, at her job, and on top of that, she's pregnant. Actually, I'd like to change this to - your wife is exhausted!
Your wife feels fat and unattractive. She's bogged down with child, her ankles are swollen, she can't reach her toes to paint them, her hair won't do a damn thing and she can't have it colored because that's not good for Stang. Jr.
Your wife needs you to give her some relax time, sleep time without worries. That's why I suggested the bath and the foot rub. It'll help unwind her and help her sleep better. That's why I suggested you get up with your daughter if she still wakes in the night. Don't roll over until your wife gives you an elbow in the side. Leap up and comfort your daughter before she wakes mom.
Your wife needs to feel beautiful. Even the most confident women in the world have moments or even days when they look in the mirror and sigh. But your wife is pregnant which compounds the issue and she's not going to see herself through your eyes unless you make her. Isn't really that difficult to show her how precious she is to you, how beautiful you find her swollen belly and how cute her toes are and how gorgeous her hair feels? She's your wife. She's marvelous to you. Have a slow dance in the living room.