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photon · 03-11-2009, 10:49 PM

Like what religion the kids should be raised, I think this is another one of those issues that should be talked about before people get married.

Hard to know it'll be an issue before experiencing it as an issue though.

I think the most important thing is to keep talking about it. Get a 3rd party to help (family therapist or something). People think a therapist is only for the real big problems, but they can be great for stuff like this where the root cause is probably not anything significant, but maybe hard to find, or maybe she doesn't even know. A therapist is good because one can often say things to them that they don't feel comfortable to say directly to their spouse.

(Really good friends can do this too).

03-11-2009, 10:49 PM	#57
photon The new goggles also do nothing. Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Calgary Exp:	Like what religion the kids should be raised, I think this is another one of those issues that should be talked about before people get married. Hard to know it'll be an issue before experiencing it as an issue though. I think the most important thing is to keep talking about it. Get a 3rd party to help (family therapist or something). People think a therapist is only for the real big problems, but they can be great for stuff like this where the root cause is probably not anything significant, but maybe hard to find, or maybe she doesn't even know. A therapist is good because one can often say things to them that they don't feel comfortable to say directly to their spouse. (Really good friends can do this too). __________________ Uncertainty is an uncomfortable position. But certainty is an absurd one.