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Originally Posted by Ice
I think you need to discover what her real problem is with you going out. Is it that she's with your child all day and craves some adult conversation and you're not there? Does she feel you're choosing your friends over her and your kid? Do you snore louder because you've been drinking so she's not sleeping as well those nights? It could be anything, and the only way to fix it is to figure out EXACTLY what her issue is with it. If she thinks you're gone too much during the week, compromising to one night is a no brainer.
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She says I wake her up when I get home and she has trouble falling asleep....so maybe
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Originally Posted by PYroMaNiaC
To me, the whole situation actually computes to her spending every waking minute with child. She does running around, laundry, dishes, cleans toilets, entertains the little one, makes meals for you, shows concern for how your day went, makes sure your lunch is made for the next day, tries to work up the energy for sex, and still get 8 hours of sleep. She loves being a mom and a wife, but the 2 hours every night that you put in parenting, (while she does chores that can't be multi-tasked) is peanuts to the energy she puts out. And then you have the balls to ask for 2 evenings a week off? When does she get time off? (this starting to sound familiar, yet?)
She doesn't want to go out, huh? No kidding. The woman is exhausted. It takes a lot of work to find babysitters, make sure the house is in reasonable condition for a guest, get snacks ready, get emergency numbers ready, and find a few minutes to swipe mascara on her which really will not hide the fact that she prego and fat and there's nothing in her wardrobe that fits any more and makes her feel special and sexually attractive - oh and god, all those pretty girls out there without stretch marks, and their boobs still ride where God intended, and .....here comes the tears....
You know what she really wants? She wants you to come home, make dinner, do all the things she normally does after you arrive, while she soaks in the tub that you've carefully run for her. When she gets out, which will be a long time coming because you've left the latest book from her favorite author in there, there is soft music playing. You ask to have a slow dance in the living room with your beautiful partner. When you are done, you lay her back on the couch and give her a foot rub that makes her head spin. For the finale, you and her climb into bed, where you hold her only and tell her that you love her, and when your daughter cries in the night, you get out of bed right away to make sure that she doesn't wake mommy, and you make the bad guys under the bed go away.
Good Luck.
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Originally Posted by Antithesis
I don't want to make it out that you're a deadbeat at all, just asking: do you help her out around the house? How is the load in that way? How does your wife relax? Have you asked her what would help her wind down? Maybe what she wants could be you watching your daughter for a bit.
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FTR I work shift work (7 on 7 off 12 hours days 6-6)
So I make decent coin, and I am home more then half the year. I stay at home with our 2 year old on my days off, and she has a mon-friday job that she loves.
I pull my share of the housework (laundry, cooking, cleaning) as I am home more during the day. She does her share too, because when I am on shift she does the cooking as she gets home first.
I bathe, and put our daughter to sleep when I am home too. I always put my family first, and give up lots of stuff (I feel anyways) for them and I dont mind at all. (as I am sure she does to)
And to whoever said I am out in a bar drinking. NOT true. I am in a Garage with 2 other guys just playing instruments. I live out of town (about 10 minutes) so I always drive, so I never have more then 2 beers. (and usually only one)