Maybe I'm being too simplistic here, but I can sure see the guys posting who have no kids Vs. the ones that have kids! There is a definite give and take; its tough for both parents to get out of the house at the same time. So while a couple of nights is no big deal without kids, it gets to be a bigger deal with kids.
I'm out all the time. It gets on my wife's nerves for sure...and I can see her point. There is no easy solution here. Frankly the stuff that Pyromaniac posted is not a solution to me...its more of an admission of guilt! I encourage my wife to go out with her friends and I go out with mine. Sometimes its good to have the two of us home after the kids are in bed even if we are just hanging out together. Occasionally we get a chance to go out together. That is the decision you make when you have kids though, and it really comes down to balance and communication.
Congrats on the 2nd child! It gets rather difficult when the second one enters the picture, but then gets better as time goes on!
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