[bigtmac19]

I was just like your wife when I was first married. My husband didn't play any sports, but he was a drummer and that was his entertainment going to jam with friends whenever he could and I hated it. I caused lots of fights over that. Somehow I thought that everything he did should include me. Now that I'm older and wiser I realize that I was just insecure and pretty immature. This was before we even had kids.
I know a lot of woman change their social priorities when the kids come along, but guys don't usually think this way. It's unfortunate, and I can't really tell you how to change it. It took me a long time to wake up. Of course now that I'm not married and I have learned to be independent, I realize how ridiculous I had acted a lot of the time.
I think at this point you may have to do the compromising and maybe cut back to once a week, meanwhile spending a lot of time trying to encourage her to spend time with just you, how much you miss that time alone with her etc. It may go a long way towards helping the situation.
As much as the kids are the centre of our universe, a lot of women forget they have a husband still, and whether it's fair or not, guys still need a lot of reassurance that they are still important to you, and it's not just all about the kids. I was a prime example of this!