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ernie · 03-11-2009, 07:51 PM

1) she's pregnant so make sure it wasn't a mood swing/hormonal outburst but a "genuine" and lasting concern

2) think back and see if you can remember if there were any other hints that she wanted you to cut back on this hobby. If it's a genuine concern (point 1) she HAS mentioned this before and being a normal guy likely made some sort of assurance without knowing you did.

3) She's pregnant with #2. She's likely worrying about how much work it's going to be...and it will be a crap load of work the first several months. She may be trying to lay the ground of you cutting back on these activities because she is going to need you around pretty much every evening. She IS going to need the break FAR more than you regardless of how stressful your job is or how much you work. And a break for her may simply be a 3 hour bath...she doesn't need to go out.

IMO (i have 2 kids) 8 hours a week coming home with beer on my breath is a bit much. Though for me personally there is nothing better than spending time with the family. I rarely need a breather from that, but my wife does and she tends to go out a few times a week after taking care of a 2.5 and 8 month old all day.

03-11-2009, 07:51 PM	#33
ernie Franchise Player Join Date: Oct 2004 Exp:	1) she's pregnant so make sure it wasn't a mood swing/hormonal outburst but a "genuine" and lasting concern 2) think back and see if you can remember if there were any other hints that she wanted you to cut back on this hobby. If it's a genuine concern (point 1) she HAS mentioned this before and being a normal guy likely made some sort of assurance without knowing you did. 3) She's pregnant with #2. She's likely worrying about how much work it's going to be...and it will be a crap load of work the first several months. She may be trying to lay the ground of you cutting back on these activities because she is going to need you around pretty much every evening. She IS going to need the break FAR more than you regardless of how stressful your job is or how much you work. And a break for her may simply be a 3 hour bath...she doesn't need to go out. IMO (i have 2 kids) 8 hours a week coming home with beer on my breath is a bit much. Though for me personally there is nothing better than spending time with the family. I rarely need a breather from that, but my wife does and she tends to go out a few times a week after taking care of a 2.5 and 8 month old all day.