[Agamemnon]

Originally Posted by Itse

You jam 6-8 hours a week? That's a serious hobby.

But she's not being unreasonable, she just doesn't get it.

Of course, does she get the equivalent time to herself? If not, then I can see why she would blow up on you. And when you think of it, if she took two weeknights to herself, that would only one weeknight for you together and three nights in a week, which is not a whole lot by some people's standards.

But in any case, you should try to explain to her that what looks to her like time wasted is an important hobby for you. You should point out that before you had kids you had plenty of hobbies, but now that you don't have the time, you ditched snowboarding and hockey and not music becauseplaying in a band is more important to you than doing sports. That might help her see that it's not just hanging out with some buds.

Tough sell.