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Originally Posted by GoinAllTheWay
Are you feeling a tad pessimistic? that's not surprising all things considered. I put the  in places I didn't really agree with. I think the spirit of your survey is if a person can change or not and I say yes, if the really want to, anyone can change themselves. If you want to be optimistic, I really think you need to surround yourself with positive people. Hanging around negative people is a REAL drain.
The thing that sucks the most about losing a relationship is this. There are places all over the world that can teach you to gain things, there are NONE that teach you how to lose things. I think this is why most have a really tough time with break ups. It sucks, it has to be one of the worst feelings ever. Ever wonder why the loss hurts so much? Recently saw a show that found that strong feelings like jealousy (a common emotion during breakups) is processed in the same part of the brain that processes pain so it does actually manifest itself physically, really crappy side affect.
Been down that road many times. Every time I've come out the other side just fine. Takes a while but we all get there. Can't stress enough about the hanging out with positive people though. |
Pessimistic behaviour im relating to my ex - he is an EXTREME pessismist. Im not focusing on him, but more so this type of behaviour. I was told from many people, that one of the best ways to help me out is to look at the biggest negatives about the relationship - and that was his pessismistic nature. Once you look at it, you will only see the positive big picture in the long run and becoming a better person from all of this.