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here's my advice that I used to help me feel better when my wife dropped the bomb on me and up and left.

The first thing you need to do is realize that it will be a difficult time. It's ok to devote some time to the situation but only do it for about 5 minutes a day. It's not easy to just up and forget about it so acknowledge it and then start doing something else. Acknowledging it and devoting a little bit of time to it lets you release some frustartions and emotions and then allows you to continue on with the day.

Talk with someone if you really feel the need to. Family and Friends are great but a third party that is not related to the situation is even better. They offer an outsiders point of view and are there to not make any judgements but just listen.

If you feel like listening to sad songs, aggressive songs, whatever do it. Don't keep your feelings bottled up inside. The quicker you can get in touch with all your emotions and acknowledge them the better. It's difficult but sometimes it's harder to keep those feelings bottled up than let them out.

My last piece of advice is trying to keep active and stay positive. believe me I know that it seems like your world has come crashing down but know that there is something better out there for you. The world works in mysterious ways.

I should mention I've been seperated for 10 months now and never thought I would be able to find another person like my ex but low and behold I've met someone that has made me realize that there were so many things lacking in my marriage and AI wasn't getting out of it that now I'm happier then I've been in a long time.

Chin up, you'll be fine and good luck