As a guy who had been a victim of the "friend zone" more than a few times before I found my GF of 2 1/2 years, I realized after I let a few slip through my grasp that I was always blaming the situation on this so called "nice guys finish last" phenomenon, or the "girls like pricks" paradox. I realized that it was me who was the issue. I am still what I think is a very nice person. I was the guy who would pick you up anywhere at anytime if you needed help, and will listen to you whine and moan about the latest guy who f***ed and chucked you. And in many ways I still am that guy, but at one point i just decided for myself that I didnt want the games and didnt want the drama. So for the most part, unless it had something to do with me, I wasnt interested in youre problems anymore and when confronted with youre latest problem about another guys conquest i would give a simple "I told you so" and move on. I think this improved myself and gave me more self confidence because I wasnt caught up in everyone elses mess all the time. So no nice guys DO NOT finish last, you just have to learn to distance yourself a bit from other peoples problems
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