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Originally Posted by jammies
I don't think the difficulty barrier has anything to do with how many men cheat. It isn't significantly more difficult for a man to find a willing woman than vice versa; in fact, if you think about it, it is exactly as easy for men as women to find a partner, given that (normal heterosexual) relations have one man and one woman, which means each sex has been equally successful in their search.
We may perceive that it is more difficult as men, but that is because we think that we are doing all the work of seduction, but conversely it is difficult for a woman to connect with a man she finds attractive because she is forced into more of a passive role where her choice is circumscribed by what men choose to approach her. If you have sisters or female friends, you are sure to have heard about the guy she has a crush on but "he doesn't know I exist", whereas with a guy it is more likely that she does know you exist, as you've made your interest plain, but she doesn't care - in the end, though, you're equal in that neither of you are getting who you want.
Finally, if you've ever been directly approached for sex as a man, you know that it's actually rather off-putting. It sounds like it'd be like a sundae with awesome on top, but in reality you are forced into a role that you generally don't play, and don't know what the rules are. If it's a woman you know and generally like, it's usually something you can get past easily enough, but some stranger coming up to you and propositioning you is really not all you might think it should be - even if she is hot.
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It isn't that I unequivocally disagree with this but it is only about 55% true.
A lot of what you say has merit but most of it is so conditional that to try and make any type of generalization makes it hard to agree with.
You aren't totally wrong but you aren't really right either.