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Did you actually find anything?!
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How old is he?
Yup, though it wasn't easy. My Google-fu is good, as is my ability to look confident while working on a WAG
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Originally Posted by Textcritic
For me, thinking about God is like thinking about love. Are you married? You have posted that you have your own b'kor so I presume that you have some experience with intimate love. I love my wife, and after nearly sixteen years of marriage I believe that I always will. When thinking about what love is, or what my love for my wife is, or why I love her, I can point to all sorts of attributes and experiences, to feelings that I experience with her, or to how she "makes me feel", but really, does that say anything at all about the presence of love? This is one of the reasons why I stopped answering the question, "why do you love me?" a long time ago.
I married my wife because she is hot, and because I admire her, enjoy her, respect her, and am intrigued by her. But that is not to say that there are not other women among my acquaintances who I find attractive (I work at a University!). That's not to say that there are not other women whom I admire, or respect, or whose company I "enjoy", or who intrigue me. I know plenty of women who are smarter and maybe even "nicer" than my wife is, but she is the only woman for whom I have this intimate kind of love. So what is love and how can you know it? Love can remain common to human experience but ultimately very mysterious. And I think about "God"—Otherness—in such terms as these: believable, but incomprehensible.
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Yup married. That's a good analogy I think because love can be different things to different people too. And love is also a choice, I can still love without feeling it, or I can choose not to even though I do feel it.
I still think there's a biological and evolutionary imperative that is the basis for love, and that's partly why it's so mysterious, because it's not based totally in rationality. There's patterns engraved in our brains which enable love, motivate us towards it, etc. But it's very complex so hard to define and understand. I think someday we'll understand it very well, which might be difficult because for some people knowing how the magic trick works spoils the trick. I love knowing how the trick works, but I'm probably in the minority.
As you say there are women out there which might have better attributes than my wife, and statistically speaking there's probably a "better" match out there too.. but I love my wife and I can't imagine even considering a "better" match, because there is none. That depth develops over time and with work, the infatuation stage goes away after a while and the deep love that replaces it is more powerful, but it's cultivated, and I think that had I made a different choice I could have cultivated that with someone else. (Though I'm glad I didn't, it's hard to talk in the abstract about one's relationship lol).
Similarly I think there's a definite biological need to understand and describe our world, which is the origin of religion maybe.
Now I have to pick up my b'kor, and figure out who's making supper today.