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Originally Posted by peter12
Addiction can't exist without the addictive substance. As well, not all addictive substances are the same. Alcohol can be used moderately, while heroin cannot.
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Of course, with some substances there's a physiological component to the addiction, that's not really relevant here.
Addiction is the problem, you can't remove every possible addictive substance from society to fix addiction.. at least not in ours, our society values freedom of choice and expression above restricting such to benefit the minority that can become addicted.
Porn can be used moderately.
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Originally Posted by peter12
As for the type of "healthy porn," I'm not sure even someone with a good view of women would even enjoy watching it.
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Women themselves enjoy watching it, many couples view porn together.
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Originally Posted by peter12
The real joy of being with women is to actually spend time with them, not fantasize about them through a computer screen. In fact, you could argue that all pornography is dehumanizing to the extent that it clearly takes away the intimate element of human contact.
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Let me adjust that a bit and see if it's still valid:
"The real joy of being with women is to actually spend time with them, not fantasize about them through a computer screen. In fact, you could argue that all
romantic movies are dehumanizing to the extent that it clearly takes away the intimate element of human contact."
If my wife watches a romantic movie and is very moved by it, there's romantic and emotional involvement with the movie. Yet I am not threatened by that because
it isn't real.
I could argue that romantic chick flicks create an unrealistic view of men and women can become addicted to an unrealistic view of men portrayed in movies to the point that they hate real men and are dysfunctional in their relationships, substituting idealized romance for the real thing.
It's the same kind of logic, but I don't think it flies in either case.
If porn is being used as a substitute for human contact then yes I would agree, but there's nothing that means that that has to be the case.
Plenty of couples watch porn together and use it as a marital aid. Watching a idealized couple on screen be really romantic with each other in situations that could never really happen doesn't damage a healthy relationship, it probably just makes the couple feel more romantic to each other. Watching an idealized couple on screen be sexy with each other is no different, in a healthy relationship where the couple are both interested, it would just make them feel sexy to each other.
If one or the other is using the porn as a substitute, then there's a problem in the relationship. The porn isn't the cause, it's a symptom. If there was no porn available then it'd be something else; infidelity, neglect while spending time with friends, whatever.