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Originally Posted by photon
Lol new twist is right!
When I pictured an "ideal" of polygamy, I totally assumed everyone was doing everyone else, I guess I naturally assumed everyone else was too. That's why I was getting frustrated with everyone bringing up the bizarre religious compound type setups!
But that makes more sense if people were thinking A B C in a polygamous marriage. A does B and A does C but B and C just happen to live together. I was thinking nights could be AB, AC, BC, ABC, or A by themselves because BC went out. 
Wow, such a simple but profound difference.
Couldn't they just stipulate then that in a polygamous marriage everyone has to be married to everyone else? Would that discourage the harem control style arrangements while still allowing the polyamorus arrangement? |
That is the way I chose to assume polyamorus relationships are too. But, they can be any number of set ups or rules.
Some couples have open marriages and then come home to each other. Some couples have relationships that are SO open, they actually have other boyfriends or girlfriends, but still remain most committed to each other. Then there's full on polyamorus relationships where everyone lives together.
I was involved in a polyamorus relationship for a period of time. Me and two women who were bi-sexual. We all dated each other. The was no 'alpha-couple' so to speak. Sometimes it was AB, sometimes AC, and sometimes BC, just like you mentioned. Most often it was just ABC. Even not counting obvious sexual benefits, it was just great fun all going out together. That feeling that you have when you are really close to someone, well basically multiply it by two. It's almost imposible to explain but when you can achieve that level of trust it's a pretty special thing.
It took a lot of work, and even in the end it ended up failing, but it was certainly a very eye opening experience.