Let me ask you this: if On & Off Girl hadn't come along and expressed her feelings, would you honestly still break up with your current girlfriend? Or is On & Off girl causing you to imagine some perfect relationship that your current situation will never be able to live up to?
It's important that you evaluate a relationship on the basis of what it is, what it means to you, what it can mean for your future; evaluate being with her against not being with her. If you can honestly say that, regardless of any potential future with On & Off Girl, you'd still break up with your current girlfriend, then your choice is clear.
Otherwise, it means that you're breaking up with her because something better came along. Which is fine, but it involves an entirely different set of principles, since you're now acting purely out of self-interest. You need to remember that On & Off girl may have no interest in a relationship with you, or anything more than a casual, On & Off relationship. You also need to consider whether things with her will ever reach a similar staleness, and what would you do then? Some people are fortunate enough to go through their life involved in a meaningful relationship that never feels stale, but most people aren't so lucky, and chances are that whether with your current girlfriend, this old flame, or some other girl, you'll have to confront these sorts of issues.
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