[Claeren]

Its funny you mention girlfriends. I was once always on time for things but 13 years worth of long term relationships and I learned that not only was it pointless being right on time, but if you showed up too early you created 'emotional pressure' for the ol'girlfriend that was not worth the effort when she vented later on!

So slowly I got used to showing up 5 minutes after when I said I would so that when they were finally ready to go 5min or 10min after that (so now 15min late) we could go without them feeling guilty - because apparently my 5min meant I was just as late as them(!?).

Giving that extra 5min saved me a lot of fights over the years.


I am single now but I am used to having that extra 5min-15min to sit around and wait. Such a hard habit to break though!

I am pretty good now in general, but being outright early is still generally outside of my reach.

(And no worries, current/future girlfriends do not have life nearly as easy, no more emotional-babysitting in my life....)