The problem for these adult children is the loss of connectedness with the past. In other words: a family gives more than physical traits. It provides a link to the past. How many of us have researched our family histories? Why do we do that? Because it is part of who we are. I don't think many of these adults of donor fathers are looking for a way to make a quick buck. They want to know if their ancestors were saints or crooks. They want to know when their family came to Canada and why. How their great grandfather lived and died. Did anyone die in our country's wars and if so how? What branch of the services did they serve in? Does the old homestead still exist? There are millions of questions we have all taken for granted that they have never been able to ask. A contractual agreement and medical procedure caused them to grow up without knowing their biological father. He may want to maintain no relationship with his donor child but, should he be able to deny them knowledge of their roots? I don't think that is fair. My family history is part of what I will pass on to my sons along with the chapter which they share with me.
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