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Originally Posted by Devils'Advocate
What?!?! Seriously? God, sometimes I hate the human race.
Taking in a woman that was in an abusive relationship who has been stripped of all her resources and assets is "bringing it on yourself"?
Being kind to others and subsequently being taken advantage of is not a lesson learned not to be kind to others.
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I didn't mean to come off that harsh. Basically if you're going to help someone in that situation you cannot resent them for taking advantage of you. I mean, they're desperate, battered, and probably not trusting of anyone or anything...not thinking straight.
If the OP didn't think
something along these lines might happen then I think its a lesson learned.
Its always good to help people, but it sounds like what this is costing in money and emotional energy would have been better dealt with another way. Hell, maybe pay a months rent for her? I mean, if she's good enough a friend to be treated the way she is already, maybe helping her into her own place as quickly as possible would have been better?
Again, sorry to sound harsh. Helping people is great. Being selective of how you help is also important in avoiding these dilemnas.