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Phanuthier · 10-24-2008, 02:34 AM

Hey OB

If your friends know you personally, they would know what a helpful and generous person you are, and if you are saying something, its obviously for a reason.

1. Be straight up, honest but not confrontational. Tell her what you said here, what stresses you have in life (family, work, school, Kevin Lowe) and that you want to work together to put on a fun and awsome baby shower, together, and you need her cooperation to do it. Say that by being upfront with your issues, you are doing so to work towards a common goal with her to put on a great baby shower.

2. Again, play to who you are because anyone that knows what kind of person you are would know that if you are binging up something, its for a reason and you already tried accommodating them. The obviously have to bring up this issue with her, otherwise it will strain your relationship and you are living in close quarters as it is. For someone (her) who has had their trust broken before, present your POV in a way that emphasis the complete and honest truth; she should appreciate that after being in a sketchy relationship. Tell her your issues and say you don't mind paying (if you don't mind paying) so long as she is honest with you, and explain that you are being straight up and honest with her and she should be to you as well since the most important thing to her has to be honesty and trust.

With both, make sure to start off by expressing something positive or good about them before you get into the discussion. That should help create a positive and constructive conversation to work towards a resolution.

Hope all is well OB, fire me a msg if you wanna chat.

10-24-2008, 02:34 AM	#3
Phanuthier Franchise Player Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Silicon Valley Exp:	Hey OB If your friends know you personally, they would know what a helpful and generous person you are, and if you are saying something, its obviously for a reason. 1. Be straight up, honest but not confrontational. Tell her what you said here, what stresses you have in life (family, work, school, Kevin Lowe) and that you want to work together to put on a fun and awsome baby shower, together, and you need her cooperation to do it. Say that by being upfront with your issues, you are doing so to work towards a common goal with her to put on a great baby shower. 2. Again, play to who you are because anyone that knows what kind of person you are would know that if you are binging up something, its for a reason and you already tried accommodating them. The obviously have to bring up this issue with her, otherwise it will strain your relationship and you are living in close quarters as it is. For someone (her) who has had their trust broken before, present your POV in a way that emphasis the complete and honest truth; she should appreciate that after being in a sketchy relationship. Tell her your issues and say you don't mind paying (if you don't mind paying) so long as she is honest with you, and explain that you are being straight up and honest with her and she should be to you as well since the most important thing to her has to be honesty and trust. With both, make sure to start off by expressing something positive or good about them before you get into the discussion. That should help create a positive and constructive conversation to work towards a resolution. Hope all is well OB, fire me a msg if you wanna chat. __________________ "With a coach and a player, sometimes there's just so much respect there that it's boils over" -Taylor Hall Last edited by Phanuthier; 10-24-2008 at 02:40 AM.