My biggest problem with 'general' parenting these days is that it's focused on control, not discipline.
Let kids make mistakes, but if they act out and do something rude, improper, bad etc. make sure that they feel the full consequence of their action.
If all you do is control what the kid has access to, what do you think will happen when they get into school and suddenly have access to all these things they havent had any experience with?
...I'm pretty sure I'm not voicing my opinion the way I want to be, but hopefully you can get the point. Of course you have to limit the kids on the extremes, but like...My parents were definitely pretty free range with stuff, but for whatever reason, I always knew my limits. I'd feel bad if I disappointed them, or got in trouble. I knew that there were consequences for doing bad things - so I didn't do bad things.
Discipline is a much greater parenting tool than control is.
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