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Grunt · 09-07-2008, 04:11 PM

Let me preface this by saying that I'm the kind of guy that responds to all messages, and all texts within a reasonable amount of time, usually as soon as possible. I pride myself on being very reliable, and if say someone asks me if I want to go to X place at X time my answer is always truthful - yes means yes, no means no, and maybe really means maybe.

I think we all know at least someone who is impossible to get a hold of, or almost never returns calls or texts. Under most circumstances if someone Ive just met treats me in this manner, I pretty much always give up on them and move on - but what to do when these people happen to be reasonably good friends of yours? Like, you know they aren't just doing this to you, but to pretty much everyone else they know as well.

I have a couple of friends who are absolutely freaking impossible to get in contact with. One of them even admitted to me that often they will see a text message come in, read it, respond to it in their heads (ie. do you want to go out on Saturday? In their minds they think "that sounds fun, but I might have another engagement, I'll let you know") but then never actually get back to that person to let them know. It takes subsequent follow-ups on their friends part to ensure that a meetup actually occurs. How exactly do you go about dealing with these people? I am 100% sure that they want to keep me as a friend, and I 100% want to keep them as a friend, but at the same time I feel like their actions are a huge disrespect to my time.

Can these types of people be rehabilitated? For those of you out there that actually do this - why?? I've talked to them about it but nothing ever changes... do you just accept that they are unreliable friends, or do you just stop at the one phone call / text and wait for them to call (even though they probably won't)? I feel like option b is basically cutting off the friendship even though it's basically their fault...

Anyways, I feel like I'm rambling... what it do Calgarypuck?

09-07-2008, 04:11 PM	#1
Grunt Scoring Winger Join Date: Oct 2001 Exp:	People who don't return calls / texts Let me preface this by saying that I'm the kind of guy that responds to all messages, and all texts within a reasonable amount of time, usually as soon as possible. I pride myself on being very reliable, and if say someone asks me if I want to go to X place at X time my answer is always truthful - yes means yes, no means no, and maybe really means maybe. I think we all know at least someone who is impossible to get a hold of, or almost never returns calls or texts. Under most circumstances if someone Ive just met treats me in this manner, I pretty much always give up on them and move on - but what to do when these people happen to be reasonably good friends of yours? Like, you know they aren't just doing this to you, but to pretty much everyone else they know as well. I have a couple of friends who are absolutely freaking impossible to get in contact with. One of them even admitted to me that often they will see a text message come in, read it, respond to it in their heads (ie. do you want to go out on Saturday? In their minds they think "that sounds fun, but I might have another engagement, I'll let you know") but then never actually get back to that person to let them know. It takes subsequent follow-ups on their friends part to ensure that a meetup actually occurs. How exactly do you go about dealing with these people? I am 100% sure that they want to keep me as a friend, and I 100% want to keep them as a friend, but at the same time I feel like their actions are a huge disrespect to my time. Can these types of people be rehabilitated? For those of you out there that actually do this - why?? I've talked to them about it but nothing ever changes... do you just accept that they are unreliable friends, or do you just stop at the one phone call / text and wait for them to call (even though they probably won't)? I feel like option b is basically cutting off the friendship even though it's basically their fault... Anyways, I feel like I'm rambling... what it do Calgarypuck?