I understand both your mom and your brothers point of view. Why spend 100 per plate on people who may or may not show up? On the other hand, you don't want any guests unhappy at your reception.
How about some middle ground. Placecards and assigned seating for those who RSVP'd and a couple of spare tables with no assigned seating for those who just show up unexpectedly. Rather than a 100.00 per plate meal, have something a little more basic and less expensive. Maybe even appetizers for those tables if people end up sitting there. That way you don't have guests who are hungry, and you're not burning 100 per plate on people who actually aren't coming. Then you have the best man or maid of honor or whoever, thank these people for coming and explain they didn't get an RSVP there was no meal prepared for them. Your mom doesn't have to do the dirty work and the unexpected guests can have a little something to nibble on so they don't starve.
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