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Originally Posted by Flames in 07
Well to me almost anyone who WANTED to be a good parent, or really WANTED to be good at something ... can.
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Sweet, my goal of being a particle physicist is within my grasp!
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If you dedicate yourself to something you can be good at it. I wasn't naturally good at connecting with 10 year olds but after some committment I figured that out ... and now have a large folder full of letters from parents thanking me for being about to communicate with their kids in ways nobody has ... if you are truly dedicated to something ... you can figure it out. So to me a parent is still a better option than a institution (special needs kids and other unique situations notwithstanding).
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Wanting, being dedicated, and just working at it aren't always enough, especially with something as time sensitive as a developing toddler or preschooler.
That's great that you have good skills with 10 year olds, but that's not the same as raising a kid from day one. Depending on the example given by the grandparents, often commitment is NOT enough to figure it out.
There's a place for institutionalized child care. I'm not a proponent of it as a replacement for parents as you seem to be saying anyone who does it is, but I think its useful and does not have the negative impact that you are saying it does.
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You are right it's tough to use blanket statements, but when it all boils down, society has now decided that careers are more important than parenting. To me someone who is at home has a more important 'career' than anyone else on the planet ... but that view is becomming more and more of a minority, which is sad ... and to me, selfish.
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I don't think that view is nearly as prevalent as you think it is. Anything beyond your opinion to support that?