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Originally Posted by photon
No one disagrees that there are poor parents out there that put achievement ahead of their kids.. however I get the impression that you are saying saying that a house where both parents work is always that way. And that's simply not true.
It's not black and white, one or the other. There's great parents who both work because they have to, but they do the best they can.
Disagree, you're making a blanket statement when it's not a black and white issue. Anyone who's had kids knows that no one is born knowing how to parent well, whereas institutions provide support and knowledge that is otherwise difficult to come by.
I know personally of a number of cases where an institution helped a child become more balanced and well adjusted.
Of course the mother put the child in there with full knowledge that that was the goal, and that the institution was well equipped and experienced to accomplish that goal. So it wasn't a case of "dumping the child" into child storage...
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Well to me almost anyone who WANTED to be a good parent, or really WANTED to be good at something ... can. If you dedicate yourself to something you can be good at it. I wasn't naturally good at connecting with 10 year olds but after some committment I figured that out ... and now have a large folder full of letters from parents thanking me for being about to communicate with their kids in ways nobody has ... if you are truly dedicated to something ... you can figure it out. So to me a parent is still a better option than a institution (special needs kids and other unique situations notwithstanding).
You are right it's tough to use blanket statements, but when it all boils down, society has now decided that careers are more important than parenting. To me someone who is at home has a more important 'career' than anyone else on the planet ... but that view is becomming more and more of a minority, which is sad ... and to me, selfish.