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Originally Posted by habernac
and sometimes in order to keep your mortgage paid, you have no choice but to keep both parents working. We don't really give a crap about careers, we want to keep food on our table and a roof over our heads.
And I find it absolutely hilarious that a person with no kids is hoisting this argument up there. The person in the article, as has been said by most here already, is a joke. But you telling me I'm selfish because I want my kids to be able to live in a decent home is a bunch of hogwash.
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It's always a choice. Always. Sometimes people think about the choice a little too late, but it's always a choice.
I don't' have kids because we decided if we were to have kids we believe someone had to stay home ... and neither of us wanted to. Parenting was either a first priority or we just wouldn't do it ... otherwise it felt like half a$$ing it which is ok for some things ,but not being a parent.
We think if we had kids, and slotted them in to evenings and weekends or whenever convenient, that felt selfish. And still feel that way. Having kids or not doesn't give me any less right to feel that full time parenting is important ... I wonder if everyone who tries to colour this argument as being either anti women or you only get an opinion if you have kids just want to keep the argument away from what to me really obvious. Parents can parent their kids better than institutions can, and maybe some people just don't want to deal with that because they make the choice to comprimise part of their kids upbringing for a better quality of life financially.
That actually is a tough decision to make, you comprise or better eliminate one option of your life because you don't think you can do a 10 out of 10 job to me takes discipline and a high standard ... to you I guess that means I get no opinion. But millions of people decide to have kids as a secondary pastime as something that entertains them when convenient for the parents. That to me is one of the most selfish things a human can decide to do.
I don't know about everyone but I've seen tons of parents who drop off their kids to sports in their infiniti, so for many its not about financial survival ... it's about the infiniti. And if it is about financial survival then maybe Calgary is the wrong city to be in.