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Originally Posted by moon

If it was a close friend or significant other wouldn't you have known about it before the cop came in and "told" people at school?

I think it is more likely whiney people who like to think that they are friends with more people than they are who are over dramatic that would be affected by this more than anyone.

The same people who cry and moan when someone they spent their entire life trying to ignore dies and it looks good to be sad about their "tragic" death.

They could have known sure but it just as likely that they didn’t know before hand from the tone of the article it seems that the cops and MADD really wanted a deep emotional effect on these kids and letting them think there best friend/GF/BF is dead seems to be the extent that these people are willing to go too

Referring to a person as “whiney” when they find out someone they know (friend or not) is dead is sick IMO, when a very close friend of mine died they where people he hardly knew that attended his funeral and grieved as hard as anyone, would you call those people whiney? Hell there are people who are emotionally distraught from the murders in Dalhousie last week who never even knew the family are they whiney or over dramatic?

There seems to be a reoccurring theme in this thread (I could way off here too) but it seems to me that people who have unexpectedly lost someone they loved or even knew (drunk driving or not) think this tactic is cruel probably because they know the initial shock and pain when you find out that person is dead, and the other side are people who may not have had to deal with such a tragic loss who might think that this is just a “tug on the heart string” or that it would just “suck” too find that out. What they don’t realize is that these people are deeply manipulating these kids’ emotions; they are reaching into some of these kids greatest fears and making them reality, I said it earlier in the thread but finding out someone you love is dead is the worst pain imaginable and no one should have to go through it needlessly

I know its been said a number of times in this thread but just imagine for a second a police offer coming to your door to tell you your wife, husband, child, sibling, friend, is dead because of a drunk driver than a hour later for them to return telling you it was all a hoax in order to teach you a lesson. What would your initial reaction be? Would you be able to recovery instantly with an epiphany to never drink and drive again? I doubt it…my bet is you would be angry, confused, hurt, resentful, and would have a difficult time trying to trust the police/the person again