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Originally posted by The Familia@Mar 23 2005, 10:00 AM
I've taken many sociology classes and had many good teachers (even minority teachers) and the facts state that inter-racial marriages have a very low success rate. Thigns are too difficult to make a relationship work. There is almost always a difference in Religion, economic status, traditions cultures etc...One of my professors who was a pakistani muslim even told us that it is not racism if one culture doesn't want to have a relationship with another. The facts just don't add up, it is very difficult for something like that to work. Heres an example. Im a Roman Catholic Italian, say I meet a Muslim East Indian...we love each other....We get married....Here comes the problems. Do we Baptize our kids or not? Do we celebrate Christmas or not. Do we go on a pilgrimage or not. If we can afford one trip where would it be. Italy or Pakistan. What do we eat? How do we raise our kids. Suddenly the picture isn't so rosy. I think it's a load of shinguard for some fool to call me racist because I'm not interested in dating someone of another race. That's crap. I was brought up in a particular culture and society, and the best chance I have of having a successful relationship is dating someone of my own ethnic background. It is to hard to throw away everything or try t intermingle everything from 2 different cultures. It doesn't work. If it does work then I think that's a shame, because you have just diluted or exterminated two separate, unique distinct cultures. Keep this up and someday there will be no culture and everyone will be the exact same fataing cardboard cutout.
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Famiilia, I can agree with the fact that someone isn't a racist simply on the grounds that they aren't attracted to someone of a different race. Different strokes for different folks. Where it is racism to me is if all the attraction factors are there: physical, religious, culinary, personality(real soulmate stuff here) but someone refuses to go with someone for the simple reason of the color of their skin. Not exactly cross burning racism here but still very misguided (IMHO) beliefs to me.
Where I think your prof was full of crap was saying that inter-racial marriages are doomed to fail because of differences in religion, dreams, and behaviors. Newsflash - if all those factors aren't there in a relationship it doesn't matter whether it's interracial or not - the relationship is doomed.
It's entirely possible that inter-racial stuff works as one half (or both halves) have either adopted the culture of the other half. Is that a shame because you've diluted one? No way - isn't it possible that a melding of the best of both cultures is the best solution out there? Isn't it possible to uphold both cultures, compromising where needed.
Aren't all good relationships about compromise at the end of the day? Not capitulation mind you but real meaningful collaboration?