I don't think old-fart was trying to lay on a guilt trip; the reality is no parent is perfect and there's lots of things you learn as you go along. Saying someone made a mistake when the kid was a baby isn't an attack, it's just reality; I can think of a few things I could have done better earlier to improve things now; that's just reality.
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Originally Posted by Draug
Regarding the crying out, we did do that, slightly. We did it only when it was time for her to stop breast feeding at night. It only took 2 nights. When she woke up for her nightly snack, we comforted her and told her it was time to sleep still (who knows how much she understood, she was 8 months maybe? I'd have to ask my wife exactly when it was). Then we laid her right back down. We let her cry for 15 mins, then would go back in and comfort her without picking her up. She'd cry again, and we would let her cry for 15 mins before comfort. About the 4th increment, she fell asleep again until morning. We never let her cry for more than 15 minutes, because we felt at that point, she was just getting too upset. Night two, it only took 2 comfort trips. By night three, she woke up, squirmed a bit, and went back to sleep in about 5 minutes. She has slept through the night since.
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That's a good description of how it pretty much went with us too; I couldn't get past 10-15 minutes, plus if we left him longer than that he seemed to get a lot more worked up.
And I agree, every kid is different and any book I've read or thread I've read the best thing is it gives me ideas and tactics to try, as you say you still have to find out what works for your kid and yourself.