The laws in Finland are a little different, but I think the principles are close enough for me to comment.
I'm definitely of the opinion that if you're not grown up enough to accept the idea of prenuptials, then you're not grown up enough to get married.
I don't have a prenuptial, but that's just because I'm too lazy.
I did suggest that we sign a prenup that the record collection is mine, end of discussion. She agreed. She knows that it's the one thing in my life that's invaluable and pretty much irreplaceable as it's such an extension of my personality and a part of my personal history. And in case of an ugly divorce, she could want to hit me where it hurts.
Also remember, it can be damned hard to prove who owned what before the marriage, if the other person is willing to lie, and when in pain, people can do the most awful things. (Although if for some horrible reason we'd some day get divorced, I think it'd be pretty much like my first divore, extremely cordial, businesslike and quiet in an excruciating way. But you never know.)
Also, I don't really think prenuptials are that unromantic I look at my case this way:
My wife, who is silly enough to love me dearly, was ready to accept the potential loss of some stuff that she would otherwise have a claim to in order to protect that what she knows is important to me. In other words she wants the best for me, now and in the future, even if somewhere in that future were not together, and even if it means giving up something of value. That's much more than words, more than any amount of gifts could say, and really, I think that's very romantic.
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