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Originally Posted by Displaced Flames fan
I'll add this too.
Every kid is different.
I was much more affected by my parents being visibly disappointed in me than anything physical or verbal. Probably why I wasn't spanked very much or disciplined period.
Other kids respond to other things.
The same parenting methods don't work on every child.
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I'd say its not what works on the kid, but its how the parents raise the child. Children are the same, they are all using the same brain, and unless chemically imbalanced or suffering some dehabilitation they are all affected by the same things IF the parents are using proven techniques.
Non touch discipline works well IF the parents do it properly. I find that people miss the point that its not that 'kids are different' thats the issue, its that parents are different and thus some choose to use a form of punishment involving contact over others who use no such tactics.
Parents that spank arent horrible people, but I do believe with the way psychology covers this aspect of parenting that its no longer necessary these days to use them since there are effective ways to discipline children without physical contact.
Don't forget verbal abuse is a common problem as well, if not more dangerous to a child than actual spanking. But both are methods I would not use on a child and I think in the next few hundred years we'll see it become an extinct practice.
If parents use spanking it is often done in a moment of anger.
Thats the biggest problem and the most problematic issue for this debate.