[Displaced Flames fan]

Originally Posted by fotze

I think the way you describe it, it could be an option for sure. I'm going to try not to but I don't think anyone less for doing it in the manner you suggest. Sounds like you save it for the more extreme circumstances to amplify the importance of the message, not to exert dominance over the child. There is 'elitism' both ways though, to choose not to go down the spank route, it means you are "new age" and your child is destined to be a druggie prostitute because you let them get away with everything.

Also, if you are to spank your kid, do so when his friends are not around. I used to have nightmares about having my friends parents as my own parents because I saw them get spanked, I was terrified of his parents because the hitting thing was so foreign to me.

I don't look down on people who choose not to spank at all. I did it sparingly...and it's long over...my kids are past that age. If it works for you to not spank, that's awesome. Seriously.